Depression: How to Find What Matters
Think of that 98%—then the question is born, what really matters? The quote is from a book by Neale Donald Walsch called “The Only Thing that Matters.” He should know what matters because as the author of the book series – “Conversations with God” and he’s had many of those conversations with the man upstairs to find out.
I was drawn to this book at a time when I was very depressed and seriously wanted to know what mattered. I was taking care of my sick mother, I had no income, and the “love of my life” had died several years earlier—I could not find anything that mattered enough to me to get out of bed in the morning.
In the book Neale gave this big buildup to an amazing tool that allows you to “transform suffering to joy, and struggle into peace.” It seems to take forever reading to get to this tool—1/2 way through the book. He cautioned the reader, do not discount this amazing tool it because it is so simple. Maybe not easy, but simple. And the tool? GRATITUDE.
This was hard for me to hear that! At the time I felt that I could not muster up even a little tiny bit of gratitude, life sucked. I decided to take my last $10 and by a used book on Amazon about gratitude and abundance to help me and anxiously awaited its arrival in the mail. When I tore open the book it was full of empty pages. (“The Simple Abundance Journal of Gratitude” by Sarah Ban Breathnach) I was angry, frustrated and confused!
Understand that one of my beliefs is everything happens for a reason. I wondered what possible reason and what kind of joke the Universe was playing on me now? (It is possible that there is a book that goes with this one. Maybe this one is supposed to be used as a workbook?)
Anyway, I needed help now and did not have money to replace it. I decided to just do what the book said to do. Write down every day the things I was thankful for. And the rule was not to repeat anything. Wow, beyond the usual I am thankful for my family, my food, and a bed to sleep on at night what could I find to say?
An amazing thing happened while using the book, the more I looked for things to be thankful for, the more I found. The more I found the more it flowed. Soon the world took on a whole new perspective and everything changed. There were things everywhere to be grateful for that I had never seen before! Could I have been looking at the world with a “glass half empty” attitude? A glass half full is still the same glass isn’t it? Gratitude maybe the key after all.
I then bumped up the magical power of the Universe to another level. I read that I could be grateful for thing that hadn’t happened yet and THEN see them manifest. I started by being thankful for the kindness of strangers. People around me were suddenly more kind, loving and warm all around me.
Next I decided to tap into the abundance part of it and be thankful for money coming from unexpected places. Surprise, it wasn’t long before I had an opportunity to return a woman’s lost phone and received a fantastic $100 reward. Holy Cow, this really works!
I had further confirmation that gratitude is magical while watching the Oscar awards on TV where Actor Matthew McConahay received the Oscar for best actor. After the usual thank-yous, he raised the golden Oscar over his head and with a grin yelled, “This is proof that gratitude works!” I knew what he meant.
I encourage you to practice gratitude on a daily basis. To engage the magic of the Universe by being grateful for everything. Try being grateful for things even before you receive them. It works!